OK, it's not calm at all, it's chaos. But tonight it finally seems a little less 'end of the world'.
Things I didn't think I'd be doing the night before a Category 4/5 hurricane - prying the bell off a cat collar. Our cat is indoors and doesn't wear a collar, it wouldn't last a day on her, but I bought one anyway at Petsmart earlier this week, along with a makeshift tag and extra cat food. Just in case. The collar is black and has stars and moons on it. And a black bell. They all had bells (is that a law or something?) but with the help of a pair of jewelry pliers I managed to get the damn thing off. A collar is bad enough, but a bell would drive her completely insane. One of the first things I did get when we brought her home a few years ago was a nice, comfy carrier (my husband used to transport his cats in pillow cases), so at least we've got the cat covered for the storm.
When we found out this weekend that Rita was most likely coming for us, I went out hurricane shopping Monday night. It seemed pretty busy, and they had a lot of your basic survival stuff out in the main aisles, but then I went to the Walmart closest to the Astrodome. After 9 pm, at which time of night there may as well be a disco ball in the store because that's where the party is always happening. But even more so the last few weeks. There were lots of disoriented and very exotic people strolling the aisles looking for basics and bargains. I went there to get a waterproof, fireproof filebox ( knew they had them) and Sparky asked me to get a little battery operated TV ("they're only about $15).
I found the filebox ($37 bucks and weighs a fricking ton), then went and looked for handi wipes (on the hurricane preparedness list and I needed some anyway), but the shelf was wiped clean. I wandered down to sporting goods and found a cheapie big flashlight to add to our collection for a mere $3.50, then went towards electronics. They had a big kiosk full of batteries, $4.87 a 4-pack... hmmm, I could probably find them cheaper as Sam's Club, but figured I'd better grab some anyway, we were low. Just for the heck of it I picked up a package of paper plates, one of paper bowls, but they were sold out of plastic utensils. Oh well.
Around the corner to electronics and they had a floor to ceiling display of little cheapie DVD players, boomboxes and portable TV combos. Wow, the storm was just announced and they've already got a huge display (of course it occurred to me later that they had been selling this kind of stuff for weeks to the evacuees, duh). They only had one style with a TV (radio & CD combo), damn, it's $35. I was very short of funds Monday night, I hadn't been doing as many auctions on Ebay as usual because of all of the Katrina depression, and Sparky hadn't given me much cash (he decided to pay the monthly bills a few weeks early and I owed him half of that amount), and I needed to go to the grocery store this evening also, but OK, we'll need a little TV if the power goes out.
Then onto Kroger's to get real food... all of our normal backup canned stuff had been donated to other causes the last few months (and some of it was near expiring from last year), so I got some soup, veggies, tuna (bleecch, only for emergencies), some Jelly Bellies (they had buttered popcorn flavor, yeah!), crackers, blueberry Pop-Tarts, a box of granola bars, and some real food. I figured we'd eat up some of our frozen food this week in case we lost power. All of the gallons of bottled water were already gone (happens every hurricane), but they had my Evian so I grabbed a couple of six packs and also some Starbucks Frappuccinos. And a box of cat litter and two 12 packs of toiler paper.
But when I got to the checkout I decided to unload the small items first in case I didn't have enough money, and of course I didn't. So for some stupid reason, I put back one of the Evians, plus the cat litter, Starbucks and one of the toilet papers. I was sending Sparky out for his own bottled water tomorrow anyway, I'd just add that to the list. Wow, big mistake. The next day the hurricane panic really kicked in here in town. Sparky got lucky and actually found some bottled water (no Evian, though) at the dollar store, but that was all he bought.
Out I went again Tuesday after dinner, but now it truly was chaos. Wide-eyed fear and panic everywhere. The first stop was Petsmart, where people were panicking and buying crates and carriers (and cat collars and even cat leashes), and huge bags of pet food. Next came Sam's Club, to get a couple of prescriptions and things like batteries (my parents had asked me to pick some up for them also), but when I turned the corner onto Fannin, the cars were backed up just trying to turn into the parking lot... which looked like Memorial City Mall at Christmas time. There were no carts, of course, but when I walked through the doors I realized I wouldn't be carrying anything heavy because a herd of something had tramples and ransacked the big battery display, which now consisted of only empty boxes strewn all over the floor. Crap. Lots of AAA and 9-volts, but that was all that was left. And all of the lanes were open, but there every single lane had people waiting with full baskets as far as I could see. So I grabbed some croissants and a box of cheesesteak sandwiches and went to check out at the pharmacy, which had all three of my prescriptions ready. My doctor's office had woke me up that morning to tell me they needed to "see me" before they could refill my asthma inhaler, to which I replied "you know there's a hurricane coming this week, could I see her next week instead?".
So then it was back to Kroger's, which had almost as many people in it. I could barely maeuver through the store, but at least they had some carts left. I grabbed another toilet paper, my unscented cat litter, the Starbucks again, but the entire water aisle was empty. No Evian, no Perrier, not even that stuff in the blue bottles. So for some odd reason I picked up a case of cream soda for me (yeah, that's a good substitute for water), which is weird because I hardly drink sodas, but in retrospect Coke would have made a lot more sense, and I got more Diet Mountain Dew for Sparky. He had said the dollar store had "tons of batteries this morning" (why the hell didn't he get any??), so I went there, but they were all gone.
I was getting sort of shaky from not eating, and all of the waiting in line, and just people everywhere, but I decided to make one more try at batteries at Home Depot, which was on the way home. They actually had some AA's, which both me and my parents needed, but no D's or C's of course. And people were buying plywood (this is Houston, no one boards up their windows, how weird...), and all of the flashlights were also gone...
I finally got home (damn I forgot to buy ice, more errands for Sparky) and just kept thinking of more things we needed. Monday night it had been "just another hurricane", but Rita was growing bigger and bigger and predictions were now for a Category 4 or even 5 storm. I've been through lots of hurricanes, even worked through Alicia as a security officer, but never anything that big. We have all new storm windows in out house, we're up pretty high, Sparky even had the forethought to have the trees trimmed, and a dying one (which stood next to the house and the power lines), but still... a Category 4? Yikes.
By Tuesday night, poor Sparky, who had been watching the TV coverage all day ("worst storm ever... bigger than Katrina!") was just a bundle of nerves. And he kept asking me questions like I was God, "What will happen? Will our house survive? Will we flood? Where are we on the map on TV? Are we all going to die?"... I don't know, no one knows!!! Please take a Lorazepam (I got them refilled also) and calm the fuck down. But we never considered leaving, we love our house too much. We've got way too much stuff. And our parents are in town, mine just down the street.
He went out Wednesday and found some ice and enough C batteries (at yeat a different dollar store, he likes thos joints) to make me and my parents feel better (his damn TV takes 10 of the things), then came home and woke me up every half hour (sigh). Wednesday night he refused to let me go out foraging for more food (and Evian) again, and I was too tired to go anyway. By this time all of the streets (and freeways) were full of people panicking and/or leaving town it was too dangerous anyway. So I packed the rest of my Ebay packages for him to mail the next morning. Now the storm was moving a little more towards the east, which was good for us and Galveston, but bad for Beaumont and Louisiana. I spoke with my friend on the phone who told me they were going to have to evacuate Beaumont now, and had to do it tonight before they closed off I-10 East because they were planning to go back to Louisiana and stay at her grandmother's house.
Thursday he woke me up to tell me the post office was closed down (what?? it wasn't even raining), and that our trash had not been picked up (dammit), and that the storm was moving a little bit more towards the Texas-Louisiana border, which meant my friend would be on the far east side of the storm and we would be on the far west side of it. But Sparky was much less hysterical today. I've gathered up all of our important papers and put them in the monster file box, we've put all of our ice into big gallon ziplocks bags (my genius friend suggested that to keep them from leaking as they melted), and we've picked up a lot of things off the floor, and taken lost of photos of the house, just in case.
I understand why my normally indifferent neighbors are panicking, they've seen that if something horrible happens to you, no one is coming to help. People are running out of gas right now, trying to get out of the city, but the traffic isn't moving. I hope all of this is a false alarm and this is just a 'normal' hurricane. But I know next time we're going to be a lot more prepared in advance. There's still two more months left in hurricane season.
With all of this -- the panic, the fear, the horrific possibilities -- all I could focus on is that you OWE your HUSBAND money for half the bills? WTF??? Puleeze!
Posted by: Midian on September 23, 2005 07:27 AMHopefully he's learned his lesson now because he just about had a nervous breakdown by mid-week. I have drilled the point into him over and over again this week that I could have had all of our supplies ready if I hadn't run out of money (!!!). On Monday we didn't know how severe it was going to be, and by Tuesday it was too late to get everything we needed. He has credit cards, and because of his monetary reticence we had to drive all over, stand in lines and forage for basics like water and batteries. Hurricanes in Houston are not normally a life and death type thing, more of an annoyance -- some flooding, the power goes out for a while -- but we have this new breed of killer storms that I hope doesn't become the norm.
We both work at home and he has always made more than me, but he insists on splitting the bills 50/50. I'm the one responsible for getting the groceries and he writes checks for the utility bills and then we figure out the difference. Usually when there is an emergency, he does come through, but his hesitation this time might have cost us our safety and he finally realizes his mistake.
Now he's telling all of his friends that he has "the best wife in the world" because I stayed calm and did all the Girl Scout stuff to prepare. I told him he'd better remember that long after the storm has passed ;-)
Posted by: Tish on September 23, 2005 08:09 PMYou both have been together for years, I take it? What's with the 50/50 thing, then? (Yes, I know I'm getting my dander up over someone I don't know, but it's making me nutso.) Isn't marriage a partnership? Why not a joint account?
Posted by: Midian on September 26, 2005 05:51 AMWe have a weird partnership, partially because I'm the "third wife" so he started out very paranoid, and partially because I had a lot of credit problems when we were first together (because I didn't make enough money to pay my bills and had to charge everything). We've been together for 15 years now, but it took him 7 years to actually marry me.
He has been getting better, though, he has been paying for a lot of home improvement stuff (yet to be blogged about), but for some reason the little day to day things freak him out. I think part of his fear of being taken advantage of is because he's dyslexic and not very good at accounting. They say money is the number one reason couples fight, it's a shame but it's really true. When two control freaks are together there are always some problems too ;-)
Posted by: Tish on September 27, 2005 05:46 AMI'm also married for about as long as you've been, and have found that when people have different styles of approaching finances, you pretty much have no choice but to do it 50/50 (as you have), or acquiesce to one person's way (as I have). My husband's way is to fly by the seat of his pants, so I guess that makes me the co-pilot!
Posted by: Midian on September 27, 2005 09:05 AMI did OK financially till after my first divorce when I was left with two large dogs and could no longer rent an apartment, but had to lease a home with a fenced back yard in a pretty expensive housing market on my own. From there forward it was all sort of downhill, having to work multiple jobs, etc.
I had just moved back to Houston (and was leasing another house) when I met my husband and was actually glad when he finally moved out of his apartment and in with me to help with the rent and the dogs. But I could never catch up financially, which completely freaked him out that I had any balance at all on my credit cards, he's Mr. "I pay mine off in full each month" but then he has had two inheritances and buys nothing, the boy owns ONE pair of jeans that don't have holes in them.
I wasn't a shopaholic, but I did work at a department store for almost 15 years straight till I started working at home a few years ago, which made it very hard NOT to buy anything. My dad worked at the same department store for over 20 years, so I grew up with my own "employee discount".
My husband has very strange spending priorities, he'll drop $500 for a 16mm film or a poster for his (huge) collection, but he'll complain about spending over $20 on dinner. He grew up in a family where his parents had plenty of money but bought generic foods, my family always bought the best we could afford in everything, which my husband is finally learning can be a smart thing.
I've been lucky and have been catching him in the right mood for the home improvement stuff lately, we've owned our own house for 7 years now and he's finally getting into the swing of doing some of the things we've been talking about since we moved in, finding a handiman who could actually do all these things for us helped a lot. (Neither one of us are handy when it comes to home repair)
Posted by: Tish on September 28, 2005 04:44 AMThat being cheap thing over a small matter, but not thinking twice to drop a huge amount on what amounts to little more than a glorified toy, seems to be very much a guy thing. I swear, it must be written in their genetic code! I've had the book thrown at me over a home-oriented purchase of a couple hundred dollars; meanwhile, a 50" hi-def plasma was a must-have.
Go figure.
Posted by: Midian on September 28, 2005 05:43 PM